A sexual predator is a person who seeks out sexual contact with another person in a predatory or abusive manner. People who are sexual predators may or may not have committed sex crimes — like sexual harassment, assault, rape, and paedophilia — but all sexual predators have sought out inappropriate contact in one way or another. Like many forms of abuse, it can be be subtle and even friendly, the person in contact with a sexual predator may not realise it’s even happening.
“Sexual predators employ various manipulative tactics to exploit vulnerable individuals, often masking their true intentions,” says Jason Ward, psychotherapist and clinical supervisor, Nightingale Hospital, London. “It is our responsibility to educate the public on how to identify and respond to potential predatory behaviours.”
Of course, there’s been a number of recent cases surrounding sexual predators in the press. From Harvey Weinstein – once the most powerful producers in Hollywood – found guilty of numerous cases of sexual assault, to Jeffery Epstein – the financier and convicted sex offender who was charged with sexually abusing underage girls, and Wayne Couzens- the Met police officer who was found guilty of kidnapping and murdering Sarah Everard.
Most recently, comedian Russell Brand has recently been accused of rape, sexual assault and abuse after lengthy investigations by The Times, Sunday Times and Channel 4’s Dispatches team.
So, how exactly can we spot a sexual predator? Here, Jason Ward shares the critical warning signs that can help in recognising the behaviour patterns and characteristics of sexual predators.
1. Overstepping Boundaries
A sexual predator may constantly push or ignore personal boundaries, whether it’s touching without consent or making unwarranted sexual comments. They might disregard your discomfort or objections, emphasising their desires over your comfort level.
2. Manipulative Behaviour
Manipulative behaviour, such as grooming, can be a strong indicator. This could include showering the person with gifts, compliments, or special attention, only to expect something in return later, often of a sexual nature.
3. Secrecy and Isolation
A sexual predator might try to isolate the potential victim from their friends, family, or other support systems. They often maintain a cloak of secrecy around their actions and intentions, trying to manipulate the situation to their advantage.
4. Sexual Obsession
An unnatural preoccupation with sex, constantly steering conversations in a sexual direction, or having an excessive amount of sexually explicit material can be a warning sign. This behaviour may be accompanied by unsolicited sharing of explicit material.
5. Non-consensual Sharing of Explicit Material
Sharing explicit materials of others without their consent, often as a means to exert power and control, can be a sign of predatory behaviour. This might include revenge porn or sharing explicit materials as a form of intimidation.
6. Coercion and Pressure
A sexual predator may use coercion and persistent pressure to get what they want, ignoring the feelings and rights of the other person. They may employ tactics such as guilt-tripping, threats, or other forms of emotional manipulation.
7. History of Violence or Sexual Offenses
A history of violent behaviour or previous sexual offenses can be a strong indicator of predatory tendencies. It is important to be cautious if you become aware of a history of criminal or sexually aggressive behaviour.
8. Lack of Empathy and Disregard for Consent
Predators often lack empathy for their victims and have a blatant disregard for the concept of consent. They may view others merely as objects to fulfil their sexual desires, without considering the well-being and autonomy of the other person.
9. Power and Control Dynamics
Predators often thrive on power dynamics, seeking to establish a position of authority or dominance over the other person. They might use their position, influence, or resources as a means to exploit others sexually.
10. Ignoring Rejection and No Sense of Accountability
Ignoring rejection and not taking “no” for an answer are classic signs. They may also display no sense of accountability for their actions, refusing to acknowledge the harm they cause and often blaming the victim instead.
What to do if you suspect you’ve been in contact with a sexual predator
“If you find yourself in a situation where you suspect the involvement of a sexual predator, it is important to prioritise your safety,” says Ward. He adds, “Trust your instincts; if something feels wrong, it probably is. Do not hesitate to remove yourself from the situation if possible and seek the help of trustworthy individuals in your vicinity. Once safe, report the incident to the appropriate authorities to prevent potential future harm to yourself and others. Remember, your voice and actions can be a powerful tool in safeguarding your community.”
Should you feel that you have been or are in a relationship with a sexual predator, please don’t be afraid to speak up. Seek support from relevant organisations such as Women’s Aid, Refuge and Rape Crisis Centres. Websites such as rightsofwomen.org.uk can help you negotiate the law and your rights in coming forward.
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